Simply Said… Shauna from My Mix of Six

I saw Shauna’s idea of the date packets and instantly got in contact with her. I had to have her on SMM’s Simply Said and share with us her fabulous dating idea. This fits so well with our Project 52: Date Nights. Plus it can be a great idea for a Valentine’s Day gift, too. So here goes, Shauna simply said…

I am so excited to guest post here on Simply Modern Mom! I am Shauna Thompson and my blog is Why mix of six? Because I have six kiddos, that I LOVE spending time with. However today I want to post about my husband that helps me take care of those six little ones, and how I LOVE to spend time with him. Here we are…

We have been married for 13 years now, and I have found a very important key to our marriage is spending time with each other. I know there have been times when I just don’t feel as close to him as I should, but then we go on a date or talk I feel more connected with him.

Dating is important in a relationship. There is a quote that says, “The value of a relationship is in direct proportion to the time that you invest in the relationship.” However finding the time and money to do it can be a struggle. I decided to take the stress out of planning and paying for our dates this year. I took some of my money from teaching piano lessons and made date packets for us to go on in the year 2010. I LOVE that they are all paid for, planned and ready to go!

Each packet is sealed until the first of the month. Then Stephen opens up the surprise date and we plan on the calendar the date that we are going to go.

Many have asked what some of the dates are. I initially wrote down a list of our favorite dates, ideas from others, ideas from the internet and then dates that I have wanted to do. I put gift cards, pictures of the activity or directions to the date in the packets. Here is a list that might help get you started:

  • Theater tickets. You don’t have to pay the big money, colleges and high schools have amazing productions as well.
  • Free summer concerts in the park mixed with a Subway giftcard
  • Dinner and the movies
  • Temple trip. Just copy your recommend or put in a picture of the temple to show him where you’re going.
  • A favorite fancy restaurant
  • Morning hike followed by breakfast out
  • Frisbee golf at the park with a coupon for dessert
  • Country dancing or any other dancing for that matter
  • Stargazing by a campfire
  • Home spa with a massage and smoothies
  • Walk through an art museum
  • Bike ride with picnic
  • One of each of your favorites. Steve likes sushi – I like chick flicks, so a night of both.
  • Cards or a favorite game in the park
  • Tennis or racquet ball
  • Bowling
  • Laser tag
  • Night out at the library (Steve LOVES to read and I like magazines. It’s a quiet night BUT we are together.)
  • There obviously can be FREE dates. It’s the time spent together, rather than the money spent.

One of my favorite parts of dating is watching and listening to our kids. They comment on how we dress up and look, they ask where we are going and can see that their parents really do love each other. I think this important because our habit will carry into their marriages of how important dating is.

Anyway, have fun planning and even better, have fun dating!

8 Responses to “Simply Said… Shauna from My Mix of Six”

  • Vanessa

    Wow what a great idea. My husband and I have had a rough few years and we started off this year feeling disconnected. We both agreed that we needed to focus on us rather then our 3 boys who get our undivided attention. We started by putting them to bed early and then we had our first date for this month in hopes that we would make it a habit to do a date once a month. I love the idea of planning for the whole year. Thank you for sharing.

  • Jade @ No Longer 25

    Hi Shauna,
    Wow this is such a fantastic idea, I think I’ll do something along these lines for valentines day and do one a month for the rest of the year. I think I’ll make up the envelopes then seal them, mix up, then label so it’ll kind of be a surprise for me too. 52dates was a bit too much to commit to for me but this is do-able I think!

    Thanks for introducing Shauna to us Tiffany!

  • Debi Walter

    Love your idea! Not only is it nice to have it all planned AND paid for, but it keeps you accountable to actually do it. As we all know, life can get in the way and even our best intentions often don’t happen. I love the part of your children enjoying seeing Mommy and Daddy get dressed up to go out together. Having been married for 31 years, our children are all grown now, but when they were little they loved our regular Monday night dates as much as we did. In the teen years they would be concerned something was wrong if we had to miss a week. 🙂 Date nights aren’t just for us – they’re setting an example for the next generation. I look forward to hearing more from you! Thanks for sharing Shauna with us Tiffany!

  • Damaris

    this is brilliant. i love it. Planning ahead is such a good idea. I think I’ll give my husband this for valentine’s day

  • Line

    What a great idea, and yes, it would make an awesome Valentine’s gift/activity. Thanks for sharing!

  • Sarah

    This idea is amazing! I am definitely going to do this (same thing, mix up the envelopes so it is a surprise for me too). I am already having a hard time being creative with the weekly dates and mixing things up. Getting inspiration from others is critical. Thanks for the help!

  • Cecilia

    Great ideas! This makes me think that we could incorporate the “bucket list” items into this idea. Or using any one of them for super-special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries. I’m thinking White Water Rafting, Sky diving, snorkeling, etc…


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