Friday’s 5 at 5: Marriage Advice

Nathan just had two siblings get married in August. AND another sister get engaged between the two August weddings. Luckily, this newly engaged sister won’t be married until March of next year. Nathan and I have been married the longest of all his siblings, there are eight of them. Yes. You read that right. Nathan comes from a family of eight children. Since we have been married the longest, I thought I would share some marital advice from our mere seven years of experience…

  1. Keep an open communication. Nathan and I talk about everything. We tell each other everything. We figure things out together. That’s especially important when it comes to parenting. With such an open communication, we feel like we are on the same page on everything and we don’t get into arguments. And be verbal about how much you love and appreciate each other.
  2. Appreciate the little things. When you are married, sometimes you get into a daily routine that it seems like the romance and courtship isn’t there anymore. But if you look at your life together and appreciate the little things you will find that you are both blessed.
  3. Only say things about the other person as if they were present. Don’t talk bad about the other person with your friends or with others, even if it is lightheartedly. Have a mutual respect for each other. Don’t joke in a way that will put down the other person.
  4. Keep dating each other. Last year when Nathan and I did the Project 52: Date Nights, we realized how important it is to keep dating even after marriage. Even more so when you have children. Life keeps going and you can’t forget about each other.
  5. Show your children how much you love each other. Nathan and I are not afraid to kiss or snuggle or hold hands in front of our children. We feel it is important for them to know that mommy and daddy love each other very much. I think that brings them a sense of security in our family unit.

» Tell me… If you had to give marital advice to newly weds, what would you advise them?

3 Responses to “Friday’s 5 at 5: Marriage Advice”

  • Carolina {Always Expect Moore}

    My brother and his new wife just got married last week! I didn’t give them any marital advice at the time, but think I will now… my advice is not to use any other marriage as the yardstick to measure the success of your own marriage. There are so many things with other couples that you never see.
    It doesn’t matter what other people are doing. All that matters is that what you are doing works for you. : )

  • Carrie

    Great advice! I’m not married, but my boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years and lived together for the majority of that time. I think we need to work on our communication. It’s not that we don’t share everything, but more that I assume he knows what I’m talking about and I assume what he says, but a lot of times misunderstand or take it the wrong way.
    Carolina: Your advice is great too!! I have 2 close-friends who are married, live in the suburbs, have children, Mon-Fri, 9-5, but my boyfriend and I have completely different lives. At first it was hard to “compare”, but now I know that our lives are just completely different.


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