Kaye has made some great friends at school and she loves to play with them at recess. They are not in her same class. So we have gotten together with her school friends a few times for play dates. Like in the picture above, that’s Kaye and her friends rolling down a hill. I love for my girls to have friends. And I’ve been making new friends with her friends’ moms. They are such great people.
Note: I am not writing this to put down the family or the child. I am actually trying to get together with the parents to meet them. I was just a bit surprised by the situation.
Then recently, we discovered there was a kid in her class who lives close by. The child’s parents both work, although the father works mostly from home. Once the father found out that we live close, he was excited for his child to have a friend. This child is the only child in the family. I had just met the father and talked with him for maybe 10 minutes outside. After talking to the dad outside shortly, he asked if they were all going in, insinuating that his child was going in our house to play right then. What?!
I was a little taken back by this. I get his excitement to find a friend for his child. But his child was not someone who played with Kaye at school although they are in the same class. And I just met the guy, he just met me. I haven’t met his wife, nor has he met my husband. And he was willing to leave his child at my house. I had to say no because I was heading out with my girls to run to the store.
We were busy all weekend. Then come Monday, first thing right after school the child and the father show up at our house again asking to play. We were heading out again, this time to dance class. So we had to say no again. But I am getting a slight impression that the dad wants his child to have someone to play with elsewhere so he can work at home. I don’t know if that is really the case or not, but that’s how it is coming across a little bit. He kept asking when the children can play, “How about later this week? How about Sunday?” He kept insisting that I call his wife. I had mentioned several times that we were busy later this week and on weekends but I would call his wife to set up a play date.
Yet at the same time, I came to the realization that we live a different lifestyle than this child’s family. We are everywhere all the time. Our schedules are so busy week-by-week that we had to squeeze in carving pumpkins into the schedule on a Saturday morning because that’s the only time before Halloween we can do it as a family. Why are we so busy? Well, we do things with friends and family. Nathan works and then does some side work. I am home with the girls but I also run them to everything – dance, school, play dates. We are very involved with our church. We run errands, we sightsee, we love doing things together as a family. Our schedule stays pretty busy a month in advance. So unfortunately, our children do not have a lot of hang-around-do-nothing moments. And when we do have a free moment, we go out for walks or the girls play together.
» Tell me… Who do your children play with? Do you keep your children busy? Do they run around with kids around the neighborhood or do they do play dates?